Your God assigned duty to another christian.
Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Those who wants to have enemies and detractors do not have to look far; go to a church. There is nothing that we need to make our Christian work workable for us that God has not provided, but the question is how many will want to sincerely follow it. The children of Israel are not too far fetch if we want to compare the christians of today with any generation of those who profess to know God. If you and i weant to admit it, any christian failed marriage has an element of self centredness involve. Yet the marrraige covenant speaks of both parties forgeting about thier slef and Paul went futher to say in the book of Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; It is tough for one to stand a bullet for his wife, if i do i will not be aorund to enjoy and revel in the love i have for her; this is humanly imposs